From planning family trips to buying gifts and honoring traditions, the holidays are often a very stressful time for families. For separated parents who share custody of their children, the holiday season brings about another layer of stress. How can parents work together to create a loving, stress-free atmosphere for their children during the holidays?
As a divorced single mother of three children and a highly successful family law practitioner, Sabrina Cronin, founder of Cronin Law Firm, has a wealth of experience in the realm of co-parenting. As the holiday season is upon us, she offers the following advice:
Consistency is Key
During the holiday season, children are accustomed to their traditions and are excited to see their families. Even if your relationship with your former partner or spouse is tense, it is crucial that you do everything you can to maintain normalcy for your children so they can enjoy their holidays. Do your best to ensure that your children still follow their regular holiday schedule and see both your family and your former partner’s family as they normally would despite your differences.
Communication is Crucial
Regardless of your differences, it is important to communicate effectively with your former partner regarding events and schedules. Make sure you have a plan for the children and do your best to carry it out as seamlessly as possible so everyone can maintain a calm demeanor and enjoy their holiday season.
Remember, the holidays are about your family and your children are thrilled to attend the festivities. If your former partner has a special event they would like to take the children to that doesn’t fall within their parenting time, be flexible. Do not cause unnecessary complications and arguments or prevent your children from going to a holiday event solely because you don’t want to change days. Have a conversation, switch times, or even offer to go with them so you can still have your parenting time.