Key Warning Signs an Aging Relative May Be in Trouble

by Kristy Como Armand

As their parents age, many adult children find themselves in the caregiver role. But how do you know when an elderly adult may really need help?

“The key is to look for changes,” says Andrew Davies, M.D., family medicine physician with Braud/Davies Family Medicine and a member of the medical staff of West Calcasieu Cameron Hospital. “For example, be alert for changes in appearance and behavior. An aging family member may say they are doing just fine, but changes like increased confusion, memory lapses or neglect of themselves or their home could be a sign of illness, dementia or a decreasing ability to handle all of the daily chores involved in living independently.”

Seeing unusual behavior from time to time is not necessarily cause for alarm, but Dr. Davies says if you see a pattern of behavior changes, it’s time to take a closer look and have a discussion with them. “For many adults caring for an aging loved one, this type of conversation is often a dreaded one. It’s tough to admit those who cared for you may be unable to care for themselves. But as difficult as it may be, it’s important to do so for their safety.”

Dr. Davies highlights several key warning signs that could indicate a serious problem for an elderly person:
Weight changes. In an elderly person, unexplained weight loss could be a symptom of depression or another illness. A significant weight gain could indicate the person is not eating a nutritious diet or getting enough physical activity.

Poor hygiene. If your loved one is wearing dirty clothes, has bad breath or body odor, or forgets to brush their teeth or hair, they may need help, especially if this is a big change in their typical behavior.

Neglect of home. If your loved one has always kept a neat and clean home, and you suddenly notice signs of dirt and clutter, this is cause for concern.

Spoiled food, or lack of food. This could be a sign your loved one is growing forgetful, is incapable of shopping or cooking on their own, or has lost their appetite.

Bill payment problems. Missed bill payments, past-due notices and stacks of unopened mail are signs that your elderly relative may need help managing their finances.

Changes in judgment. Uncharacteristic spending, charitable donations, involvement with unfamiliar people, drinking, gambling or other significant behavior changes may warrant closer attention.

Lack of participation in regular activities. Take note if your loved one gives up activities they once enjoyed, such as playing bingo, going to church or watching television. This could be a sign of depression or other health problems.

Friends or neighbors notice a change. Those who see your elderly family member frequently can be good partners in their care, especially if you don’t live nearby.

Unusual physical problems. Falling or dizziness is a symptom of a variety of potential medical problems, and burns or bruises may be signs of forgetfulness or possible problems with medication or alcohol.

“If you see any of these warning signs, or any other symptoms that concern you, make an appointment for an assessment with your loved one’s healthcare provider,” says Dr. Davies. “A comprehensive evaluation can identify any health problems that need to be addressed. They can also recommend any additional testing and provide referrals to any other resources they feel are needed, such as home health or daily living assistance.”

To schedule an appointment with Dr. Davies, call (337) 528-7316.